Do you have a bad habit you desperately want to change? The conventional wisdom is that you need to commit to that change, says composer, filmmaker and organisational consultant Robert Fritz (www.robertfritz.com). However, he says that attempting change as a way of eliminating something negative from your life might not be the best way to achieve your goal.

Instead, Fritz recommends you work toward some end that will motivate you. So, for instance, if you want to stop smoking, saying I want to be a nonsmoker might put you on the road to relapse, because you’re working against something (you don’t want to be a smoker). The better way to keep yourself motivated is to become aware of what you truly desire.

You might want to quit smoking because it’s bad for you, but there’s part of you that will be conflicted because in some ways you probably enjoy smoking even though you know it’s bad for you. This kind of conflict can cause relapses.

What you really want is to be healthy, and to do things that keep you healthy. Knowing what you want is the key, and phrasing it so that you’re working toward something positive is important. This method can be used
to change most kinds of work or personal habits, Fritz says.

 

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